Modern homes can be places of convenience, cleanliness and efficiency. Released from the long list of chores that comprised an olden day labor-filled lifestyle, we are freer to come and go, travel from home, and invest time outside of our home in activities. For some, it can seem important to step away from the work of tending the home. It can seem like liberation to be less focused on the daily physical structures of life.
However, spending less time tending our space can mean that our homes are failing to provide essential nourishment for our human spirit. Our world is one where people can complain of feeling disconnected, lonely or stuck in a rat race that lacks meaning. Some symptoms of these complaints are addiction to drugs, alcohol and overspending. Health symptoms such as stress and heart disease also are prevalent. Our homes can be railway stations of family life; with members rushing out to work and school. Some parents stuff food into the kids at night before an evening meeting or a late night tryst with the internet. Weekends can be spent recovering from the work week, attempting to get caught up on the laundry, shopping or attending to needs for fun and entertainment. Houses can also be cluttered with too many belongings and they can fail to provide a sense of peace, warmth and security.
Like the comfort and meaning that the structure of religion can provide for a family, creating a soulful home can provide something essential. A home rife with meaning, symbolism and personal and spiritual beauty can alleviate stress. It can give a solid center to our lives. Indeed, as Thomas Bender says, aligning our buildings with our sense of our universe gives us the opportunity to affirm and clarify our beliefs. Residing in a soulful home makes us happier and healthier because, through meaning, it connects us to an integral part of our human roots. It connects us to our history.
In ancient times the very first concept of home was the hearth, the round fire that warmed, cooked and kept us safe from harm. The home fires represented physical nourishment, security and the focus point for tribal relating. Humans gathered around the fire to tell stories and nourish themselves in spirit and body. There is evidence of hearth worshipping as far back as archaeologists have discovered remains of human life. Hestia is the ancient Greek goddess symbolizing the hearth and the guardian of the home. In Greek culture, every house had an altar for her and it was central to daily life. The alter was cleaned, tended and honored with incense and fresh flowers.
The ancients also acknowledged Hestia by pouring a little of the first drink of wine on the ground as a tribute to her. According to Jane Alexander in her book Spirit of the Home, a house or a temple was only a building until the altar to Hestia was set up. The Hestia altar was purported to bring to the home the properties of serenity, security, protection and safety. It was said that home provides a vessel for a harmonious family , as Jungian James Hill stated in a lecture on the soul of home in 2009. Humans have a need for this container as a place for rest, retreat, solitude and for dreaming.
In the past, it seems that humans understood our need for a meaningful way to experience intimate places. Our ancestors performed specific actions to cultivate their soulful connection with home.
But Hestia is in danger of being abandoned. The home fires have gone out. This is symbolized by the stopping up of chimneys and the installation of flip-of-the-switch central heating. The glowing fireplace has been replaced by the radiant screens of computers and televisions. Modern architecture is sick, says architect Christopher Day.
We lost our havens when we lost our habits of tending and honoring the spirit of the home. We also lost our focus. Interestingly, the word focus is a Latin word meaning hearth. To focus like this can mean to create the time and the place to digest, express and muse on the experiences of the day. And this happens at home. Indeed, as Gaston Bachelard states the house is one of the greatest powers of integration for the thoughts, memories and dreams of mankind.
Christopher Day reminds us thatevery place should have a spirit. Indeed, unless it has been destroyed by brutal unresponsive actions, every place does have a spirit. Looking from an historical Hestian perspective, we can gain some clues for simple ways that we interact more meaningfully with our homes, even in the midst of busy modern lives
Create a small alter in the centre of the home and lighting a candle or burning a stick of incense every day to honor the spirit of the house. This brings back the element of fire into the home, regardless of whether the homeowner possesses a hearth.
Gardening or tending houseplants is another meaningful activity that can connect a homeowner with the spirit of the house. Indeed, a soulful home would not be complete without the beauty and harmony of green living plants. Plants symbolize the cycles of life.The greatest delight which the woods and fields minister is the suggestion of an occult relation between man and vegetable. I am not alone and unacknowledged. They nod to me and I nod to them, wrote Emerson. This suggests the connection of the divine forces of the plants and gardens to human beings. The physical activities involved in caring for a garden contribute on another level to the health and vitality of a soulful homeowner.
Another method to increase conscious attention of the physical surroundings of the home is to cultivate awareness of all of your senses as you move about your home. The senses include: sight (notice and reduce clutter, emphasize color in the home, choose images symbolic of soul), hearing (water, wind, chimes, bird sounds), smell (essential oils, kitchen foods, incense), touch (fabrics and textures, wood, stone, clay). Consider naming your house as a way of coming into relationship with the unique personality of your home.
So, it seems that in the acquisition of the cleanliness, convenience and efficiency of today’s house, there has been a giving up of the heart of the home. This giving up of the heart is felt by modern society with a sharp warning pang and specific symptoms. With proper guidance and understanding, however, it’s very possible to re-focus our time and attention in ways that can support the revival of the soul of the home, Hestia. Reviving Hestia replenishes our roots and nourishes us on levels unseen yet crucial to our health and vitality.
Rachel Ross
Mandala Homes